the way you look or do things can express things just like a song can.
John Carlucci said:
I've been in a million bands. The best way to get in a band is to get out there & meet people. Go see as many bands as you can, chances are you will come across a guitar player here, a drummer there, that are not happy in their current situation. If you see someone that you think is cool, talk to them, get the word out there. Ads are okay, but the chances of meeting someone with an ad is almost like winning the lottery. If you get out there & start playing, and you are any good, people will notice you & they will approach you.
While it's good to have a certain look & an image in mind. Don't fall into that trap. Are you a musician or a fashion model? If you rely on looks, you will have a short career in the music business. Looks fade with age. Rely on your love of music & develop your talent & you will meet like minded people.