You've got to hang on to those things. I don't tell people how to handle the pain of loss , but everyone who's lost a spouse said they told them , don't let this make you cynical. And try to find somebody else. My late friend , Donna , used to call me from different shows and hold up the phone so I could hear....Sometimes , I think she might still call from whatever great show none of us could see , here , but , maybe say the rates are terrible , and hang up.
Kirk Teeters said:
Marta claimed to not believe in any kind of afterlife, but I can't shake the feeling that she'd come back and slap the crap outta me if I didn't find things to laugh about. When we were separated, she'd send me the longest most hilarious letters about what the kidz were up to. The funniest ones were about shit like "Well, Ian managed to totally destroy the dryer with a little green army-man..."
John Battles said:Things like that happen.....I always tell people , you WILL find something about this to make you laugh. They'll be there to remind you. Its leading up to that point that's the hard part. I only recently learned there still IS a Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill.
Kirk Teeters said:She'd have found it totally appropriate. I had expected at least one of the kids to give me a hard time about it, but they all thought that she'd have wanted it that way. And many's the time we laughed because her grandma missed her own funeral, because UPS didn't deliver the urn on time. Which grandma, in turn would have thought was hilarious.
John Battles said:YOU KNOW ALL OF IT , IF YOU FEEL THAT'S WHAT SHE WOULD HAVE WANTED.
Kirk Teeters said:I'd forgotten about the smoking the ashes bit! lol
On the other hand, I keep my late wife's ashes in a Boone's Farm Strawberry Hill bottle, so what the hell do I know?
John Battles said:BTW , We forgot the greatest rumor in recent Rock'n'Roll history.....Keith Richard smoking his Dad's ashes. He even had the press believing it , momentarily.
John Battles said:It may be , that it goes back that far....Or it could , still , be a variation on the story of a Football team pulling a train on Louise Brooks......WITH her consent.
Mark George Harrison said:I heard a few years ago, maybe from a Marc Almond interview, that he heard the story originated in the 50s about a (head?) cheerleader and a football team that she had been 'good' to. Maybe Rods publicist was re-cycling as well?
Kirk Teeters said:I didn't care for Rod when I first heard him, cause he was doing 'disco-shit' like "Do ya Think I'm Sexy". It wasn't til later when I heard stuff like "Maggie May" and "the First Cut is the Deepest" that I appreciated his voice. And, no, I don't blame him for being pissed about the rumors. I got called a variety of nicknames in school because I was "all into that pansy-ass art stuff". LOL And, just like Rod, I was ALL about the women.
John Battles said:It's so true. I have no particular admiration for Marc Almond , but , not knowing what it's like to be Gay , or someone in the public eye, I still know rumors can be really damaging. I don't think the original rumor did Rod Stewart any damage , but , who could blame him for being pissed off ? It took me YEARS to appreciate his singing at all , but , I knew , centuries ago , that he was all about women , just as women were all about him.
Kirk Teeters said:It really is interesting, from a sociological point of view. Now that we have the internet, these things can spread even faster (and in some cases be 'debunked' faster as well.) But rumors have spread faster than the speed of thought probably since the beginning of time.
John Battles said:I GUESS MY TAKE ON IT IS , IS'NT IT POSSIBLE SOMEONE MERELY REVISED THE STORY , AND IT TOOK OFF , ONCE AGAIN?
If it happened , it would have been difficult for the press not to have a field day with it , and , by that I mean a few REAL newspapers , not The Sun , The Star or our own National Enquirer , Examiner , etc. Unless (Understandably) , Almond paid a lot of people off to be quiet.
Nero said:I can back Mark George Harrison up on this one, I was going to say the same thing until I came across his post. When I started reading this thread I had to Google the Rod Stewart myth to find out what is was, only to find that it was the one I'd heard attributed to Marc Almond, roughly around the time of 'Tainted Love', or a bit later.
John Battles said:IN SLADESPEAK : CUM ON , MAN , YER MAKIN THAT NOIZE UP.
Mark George Harrison said:Strangely I'd never heard the Rod myth, here (UK) it was always credited to Marc Almond.
John Battles said:YOU KNOW WHAT , YOU'RE RIGHT ! THERE IS A BOOK , THERE.....I heard it in Junior High at the same time. We were kids , not particularly progressive in our thinking , we wanted to believe certain things , but , in the back of my mind , I thought another kid at school made it up. I did'nt hear the story again for YEARS , until my friend's band , Lava Sutra , made reference to it in a song. It WAS the equivalent of what "Going viral "is , today. Peter Bagge DID A HILARIOUS CARTOON , around that time , changing said Rock STAR'S NAME TO "Reginald".
trashman said:Well we all know the Rod Stewart one.
But what I find interesting is how it all evolved. I remember hearing it back in 4th or 5th grade (1979 or 80); but I heard it from a kid in a lunch room. And I thought it sort of started there. Then I met kids in other high schools and they knew it. Then onto college and they knew it. Then professional life living all over the U.S. and they knew it.
This rumor was spread before the days of the internet so remarkable the way it carried along an oral tradition (no pun intended) of storytelling. Of course, we all got to an age we knew it was false but remarkable to the extent this dirty little rumor spread.
I recently heard Rod Stewart address while doing the media tour for his new book. It was started by an ex-publicist he fired. Remarkable.
The way this story spread via person to person in the late 70s/80s is worth a book in itself.